When your partner dumps you, initially you are upset, you want him/her still. The childish side wants to cry,beg,smash their windows, just take it all out on them personally.
The grown-up thing to do, which you know consciencely, is to let it go, because he/she will either come back or time will supposedly heal.
I have always been that girl that understands and walks without a tear. Deep inside I rage and cry.
What do , or how do you handle being dumped without much explanation or warning?
The grown-up thing to do, which you know consciencely, is to let it go, because he/she will either come back or time will supposedly heal.
I have always been that girl that understands and walks without a tear. Deep inside I rage and cry.
What do , or how do you handle being dumped without much explanation or warning?
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Re: Be a grown up
Thu, August 16, 2007 - 6:00 AMI react as if I had been killed, impailed, bleeding on the point of pains sharpness. Then I am reborn. I am a new person now and I feel nothing will touch me again. So I am happy in this secure pale shroud.
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Re: Be a grown up
Thu, August 16, 2007 - 7:59 AMI'd throw darts at her picture.
throw out any reminders of her.
Maybe make a voodoo doll to stick pins in.
write blog entries about her.
start a new life.
greive. heal. move on.
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Re: Be a grown up
Thu, August 16, 2007 - 1:08 PMAccept it, then greive, get angry...greive some more and slowly move on.
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Re: Be a grown up
Thu, August 16, 2007 - 6:48 PMi have done both and or any combination of both.
i had a relationship for 10 years and one day i walked away and it turns out he never called me. i never wondered and he never explained and it turns out for the best. yes, we missed each other, that is only natural, but there was no regret or crying or rebounds.
later, i had a mad passionate affair for two years with a younger man who always told me he wanted to look for a xtian wife when he turned 30. lo and behold, he did just that... me? i went into deep depression and anger mode, gained 60 lbs and had low self-esteem for a long time afterwards.
those are the two ends of hte spectrum, i have done other things that are a combo of accepting and acting out. Example: went to a party with my boyfriend, who left with another woman and didn't come home for three days by which time i had the locks changed. That was a bit of accepting and acting out.
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Re: Be a grown up
Thu, September 27, 2007 - 5:50 PMwow, umm.. ive never wanted to hurt them, just was left wondering want went wrong or realized that if they werent into the relationship as far as i was then it wasnt going to work anyway, if they didnt want to go any further than that was that , it hurt, made me want to scream, but that was for releief for my hurt feelings, not because i was wanting to hurt anybody else. i dont feel like i want to hurt someone else just because our relaionship dint work out, a relationship takes both people and if one or the other isnt that into it, then its done, simple as that, its a good thing, to break up if both arent feeling the same thing. i still want to be with them, yeah, but i recognize that its a lost cause at that point, why make things worse for both of you?
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Re: Be a grown up
Sat, October 13, 2007 - 7:57 AMalmost always freaked out - regardless of who broke up with whom. rebounds until i've comepletely destroyed myself. i think i behaved myself somewhat rationally with one breakup - and we weren't exclusive or very intellectually connected.
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