oh duh...

well... Yea, i guess i have... Then again, who hasent?

There would be various scenarios i could use to answer this question...

So, as long as you know where she's at, what's wrong with you two fucking each other's brains out <G>? Potential FB <G>?

Bill

I don't think lust is in and of itself a negative emotion (Unless of course you believe in the christian doctrine). I think that it's perfectly human to feel the stirrings from those that smell or look or whatever turns you on, right.


THe question is the wrong place wrong time thing. It's vague and different for everyone. I found for me it's always the karma thing; at the most unexpected times these things will bite you in the ass.

but I'm always open to fantasy fodder.

I long lusted after Ginger, but there was no way she was ever getting off that island with that shit-head Gilligan screwing everything up. Oh well.

"somebody you weren't supposed to"

Oh you know..like your signifigant other's best friend/sibling/parent..the married neighbor...your boss...or a co-worker who you are the boss of......scenarios that could only result in pure fuck-uppedness..

Speaking of boss/co-worker...
I have (by bizarre coincidence) been lusted after by two bosses and both scenarios resulted in a great deal of fuck-uppedness...
The first time I was a 19-year-old complete and total boot case. I was working at Whole Foods and the Deli Team Leader was this gangly akward weirdo in his mid-40's who's son also worked in the deli and was just a year younder than me..(i actually thought his son was sorta cute)..anywhoo...it resulted in a big nasty sexual harassement ordeal. he didn't physically touch me, but he made it to where I would get the panicky shakes whenever he came near me....he had been following me around an awful lot...insisting on giving me rides to the bus stop, named the sandwich of the day after me..Finally broke the news to me that he had the hots for me after learning that I had a boyfriend of 5 years..asked me to keep the whole thing a secret, but I just couldn't.... etc...The store manager had to white wash things..He got written up, but kept his job. I was never able to get a job at a whole foods ever again...

The second time was with Flakey (my boyfriend).

So lets switch this question around....
Have there ever been times that you know of when YOU have been lusted after inappropriately...(eek..sorry my spelling is so bad)..

like...by boss..best friend's signifigant other/best friend/parent..etc...etc..etc..

Guilty...Guilty ..Guilty <tee hee> I fell " in crushed" with a boss I had several years ago. It took me a while to get past it but I did. We became friends and after I left the position I just told her the truth. I said I have had the biggest crush on you. .. I know it is not based in any reality that there is just something about you. That I did not really "want" her but I just felt mesmerized. It was cool. She was flattered and understood that I was not really interested in her but that it was just more a phase. All that being said my awareness did not make it easier. I was tormented and in hell for even having the feelings <giggle> The shit all seems so silly now but then it was crazily painful. Everytime I saw her my tummy did sommer sault, my heart raced, my blood presure soared and I could hardly speak. Tee Hee. I got over it mainly by being able to verbalize my feelings and also by learning that what I found attractive in her was really just parts of myself that were disowned. Once I was able to tap into those things in her I so admired that were really also found within me the crush went away. today we are very close. I never think about her in the same way and thank gosh no longer tormented <giggle> Now, I suppose that I don't recommend going and telling everyone your deep and personal feelings because it would not be appropriate always and some people are just fucked up and would get a big and unlevel head and make your life a living hell. But in cases where it is safe it is valueable to learn someting about yourself. I now know that crushes are really about faling in love with a part of yourself that you really want to express but find it more entertaining and/or safe to project it onto another and fall in love with them instread. Of course that is but one definition of a crush. My quarters worth Glitter

Lust is simply desire. Desire is chemical. It's organic. If there's a God he/she/it created it. Lust or desire are just interest. Without it we would have nothing. I see lusting after a person as no worse than lusting after an apple or a piece of cake. I've got an appetite for love, cuz me so horny! lol
I use to lust after someone who I can't say in case he ever sees this. A long time ago I saw his large member erect in the morning sticking out of his underwear and have secretly wanted him ever since. And no it's not my Dad or brother. I totally lust after teachers in school, my friends fathers, men I see in my neighborhood, men at the store, men at the gym, men EVERYWHERE!!! Men who are usually always str8 & married. : ( Women I lust after are usually very very beautiful and I always assume they would never be interested in me. They are are usually with someone already or if they are single and looking they typically arent looking for a man like me.

When I was 16 I lusted after my best friend's brother, he was in his 20's. Thankfully he was smart enough never to take advantage of that situation, but I certainly made it clear that he could have. I didn't do anything silly like sneeking into his room in the night or anything (I thougght about it though) but I did draw him a portrait for his birthday from a couple of photos my best friend had. He thanked me and thought it was really sweet but I think he always saw me as his kid sister's friend.

I've got a couple of friends whom I wouldn't kick out of bed for eating crackers, they know I have a crush on them and so does my SO. But that's the nice thing about being Poly, you can have these crushes, even share them with my partner, and if it is recipricated then the light is green to start talking about depth of involvement. So nice to have that because I tend to be really flirty and being on a leash just makes me want to run.

I get crushes on moderators of some tribes ...